Spotty problems

[Tugger]

Are physical problems a hinderance to a meaningful relationship? I suffer from a really spotty complexion on my face, back and chest. This inhibits me from trying to form a relationship with a girl as I feel so unclean. I feel as though anyone would immediately shy away from me in disgust once they'd seen my body. It really restricts my life and I feel so lonely.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

how bad are we talking?
I mean if its really severe acne, there are treatments you can get for it.
If its just suffering from spots, then no problem - more to squeeeeeeeze :P

[stargalaxy]

I can't comment on whether it's a hindrance in a relationship. However, there are several answers for dealing with spots. I suggest you go to your doctor and ask to be referred to a dermatologist. I was, and they prescribed me Roaccutane. It's a very powerful drug with a massive list of potential side-effects. It did me wonders. Where I used to have nasty, persistent acne, nowadays I get just one or two spots in the most awkward of places.

Bear in mind also that having spots is no indicator of personal hygiene - to say someone spotty is dirty is ignorant beyond belief. No, the issue of spots can be dealth with. Don't bother with nonsense like Clearasil, none of those things work, I should know, I tried them for years. Judging by your post, they are denting your confidence severely. March into your GPs office and insist on a referral to your hospital's dermatology department if the spots are constant.

[crazy_guy]

I really do think they are a emotional hinderance - i previously suffered from acne and it really stopped me getting close to people due to my fear of rejection due to spots and i was embarassed in going out in public some days. Self consciousness is your worst enemy, but as others have said there are solutions out there!

[Kermit]

It's only a hindrance if you let it be one.

Most teenagers have spots. It's a fact of life, all the hormones in your body send your skin haywire.

If you take all the "pizza face" comments to heart, then it'll be a hindrance, because you'll be so paranoid about your spots you won't be able to trust your partner.

But I'll guarantee this: any girl you get naked with will be a) too excited and b) too worried about her own body to notice your spots. Even if you have bad acne.

[DancingHorse]

I'm afraid I can only agree with Kermit. Damn him for being so right all the time!

[badgerboo]

Originally Posted by Kermit

It's only a hindrance if you let it be one.

Most teenagers have spots. It's a fact of life, all the hormones in your body send your skin haywire.

If you take all the "pizza face" comments to heart, then it'll be a hindrance, because you'll be so paranoid about your spots you won't be able to trust your partner.

But I'll guarantee this: any girl you get naked with will be a) too excited and b) too worried about her own body to notice your spots. Even if you have bad acne.

Agreed! Must say though its not only teenagers that get bad spots.

My best advice is: Do not over-wash your face, you're not getting spots because you're dirty. Cleaning your face too much will give you more spots.

I have never ever been put off fancying someone because they have spots, infact a friend of mine loves it when she finds out that her new boyfriends have spotty backs because she likes squeezing them.

Originally Posted by badgerboo

Agreed! Must say though its not only teenagers that get bad spots.

My best advice is: Do not over-wash your face, you're not getting spots because you're dirty. Cleaning your face too much will give you more spots.

I have never ever been put off fancying someone because they have spots, infact a friend of mine loves it when she finds out that her new boyfriends have spotty backs because she likes squeezing them.

That is fuckin grim

[LeicesterLuke]

Originally Posted by badgerboo

infact a friend of mine loves it when she finds out that her new boyfriends have spotty backs because she likes squeezing them.

Keep her away from me! The one's on my back are seriously painful when messed with!

[badgerboo]

I know but she loves it, think its a bit of a fetish thing she likes to see the puss squirt, lol.

Just wanted to point out that not everyone thinks spots are gross. x

[analyst]

doesn't squeezing spots just make the mcome back and leave more marks on you?

[Addict]

Originally Posted by badgerboo

I know but she loves it, think its a bit of a fetish thing she likes to see the puss squirt, lol.

Just wanted to point out that not everyone thinks spots are gross. x

That is fucking wrong.

[soraliah]

i used to wash my face with soap and my spots got worse (much to my annoyance)

only after a couple of months or so of doing this i was told that washing face with soap is actually BAD for skin and it is bound to get worse.

so that is my top tip - stay away from soap!!! (although i bet everyone out there already knows!!) i use some t-zone stuff now and it seems to be making my skin better! although it is still pretty awful

[Kermit]

Washing with soap isn't bad for your skin at all, but it can wash away all the moisture. This makes the skin produce more oil to compensate, which means more spots.

Best thing to do is wash properly twice a day, and remember to moisturise properly using a water-based moisturiser such as Simple Oil Control. If you're a bloke, it's especially important to do this when you've shaved.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally Posted by badgerboo

I have never ever been put off fancying someone because they have spots, infact a friend of mine loves it when she finds out that her new boyfriends have spotty backs because she likes squeezing them.

hehe, I wouldnt say that I love it when someone has spots, but i certainly dont mind.
I think it would be annoying to see a big spot and not be allowed to squeeze it though.