Inappropriate attraction

[twinklestar]

I have been married for less than 2 years but find that I have recently, over the last few months, become attracted to a man at work. It is not just physical hes genuinely a nice guy, he makes me laugh and is very caring. We have flirted and have been out socially after work. I get the feeling he would like kiss me and has even said if i were not married he would date me.I find myself thinking of this more and more. My husband has seemed to change recently, becoming more angry at silly things and reluctant to take me out so I have seen quite a lot of my friend. We also chat on the net when we are at home.

[Yerascrote]

Originally posted by twinklestar
I have been married for less than 2 years but find that I have recently, over the last few months, become attracted to a man at work. It is not just physical hes genuinely a nice guy, he makes me laugh and is very caring. We have flirted and have been out socially after work. I get the feeling he would like kiss me and has even said if i were not married he would date me.I find myself thinking of this more and more. My husband has seemed to change recently, becoming more angry at silly things and reluctant to take me out so I have seen quite a lot of my friend. We also chat on the net when we are at home.

marriage is always mentally challenging, thats why i'd never marry unless i truly loved the person, there's love then there's love, i thnk you're becoming subconcsiously dissillusioned with the whole idea of marriage and i'm not sure if its the husbands fault, maybe you feel isolated and this man brings back the old memories, if you truly love your husband then you'll make it work, doesn't mean you can't still be friends with this bloke, just means you cant do anything else and if you feel that you must see this bloke then your marriage isn't working and you should see a councillor

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I think you need to stop seeing this man, changing jobs if need be. Concentrate on your relationship with your husband, go to relate if need be, but 2 years is too soon to chuck it all down the drain for a fling.

[Kermit]

The fling is meaningless, all it shows is that you want feelings that you aren't getting in your marriage.

And rather than going off with some blopke, fix your marriage. people give up too easily these days.

[Miffy]

Originally posted by Kermit
The fling is meaningless, all it shows is that you want feelings that you aren't getting in your marriage.

And rather than going off with some blopke, fix your marriage. people give up too easily these days.

Not half.

Twinklestar, were you actually asking a question, because I can't see one in your post. If it's that you want to know what you should do, well, I agree with the others. Are you going to look elsewhere for some emotion every time your marriage hits an inevitable bad/boring patch? Because if you are, why did you bother getting married? You need to work on sorting out any problems with your husband and avoid flirting with this other man.

[twinklestar]

Thank you for your perspectives. I have spoken to my husband about how i am feeling regarding our relationship and he has promised to try to spend more time with me. I will stop seeing as much of my friend but unfortuately i cannot leave my job as it is well paid for the type of work i do and currently im in the process of being promoted.

[Miffy]

Originally posted by twinklestar
Thank you for your perspectives. I have spoken to my husband about how i am feeling regarding our relationship and he has promised to try to spend more time with me. I will stop seeing as much of my friend but unfortuately i cannot leave my job as it is well paid for the type of work i do and currently im in the process of being promoted.

You don't need to leave your job, just cool it, stop playing with fire, flirting and getting into inappropriate situations/having inappropriate conversations with this other fella. You KNOW what to do.